Book Talk: Reading like an Olympian.

2016, a Summer of Olympics, major game changers in the Olympics. A lot of firsts and many medals for American…and Female – Olympians. Bushiness publications such as Inc. magazine and other working articles are using the “Think like – Work Like – Train Like the Olympians to bring the How The Olympians do it, into the ring of business and daily life habits.

But Summer is also a time for Summer reading. And there are Summer Olympians who have written their own books. So of course with the 2016 summers and my constantly adding to my reading list….the combination was ‘bound’ to happen (see what I did there?)

I am planning to start with books of, by, and about, some Olympians in the equestrian field to begin, then add some from there. But I have to admit that I have not read any of these found.

However, one more bit of range and direction in my reading to write to add to my list. And reading the articles from business magazines and more to boot just boosts my “Olympic habits and lessons” reading.

Hmmm, Write like an Olympian…..

What are some you’ve read or even written?

GoodReads alone has over 70 books alone listed about Olympians written by or about for a quick go-to of where to start.

Popsugar PopSugar has a great article about books written by Female Olympians.

Writers can really put to use these Olympian habits isted in Entrepreneur  in their own work.
See also Athletes who wrote childrens books.

Bustle Bustle even prepared us for the 2016 Summer Olympics with a list of books to read in preperation.
And more in Habits lie an Olympian Article by Inc. Inc. Magazine.

Book Talk: How we choose.

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As part of a writers toolbox (and just the plain reason of books) I must build a collection of readings, with a wide variety. Those in the genre I write, those that teach me, and those that allow for coloring outside the lines, thinking and experience outside my box. To know and understand (or at least seek to) that the world is much larger than me, is to grow that much more in my writing. And hopefully along the way, in my Self.

It is easy to get into a reading rut and not even know what to read outside of it. Standing in the middle of a bookstore during your Outside Of Your Box Mission can go from being a pleasurable thing to an overwhelming one. Even slightly embarrassing.

Today there are a lot of resources on providing ideas outside of the NYT Best Sellers List…or the Oprah Book Club. Websites like BookRiot & GoodReads provide many categorized lists to choose or get ideas from. (Nothing I like better than lists & Books except lists OF books)

My reading list for 2016, a big year on consciously thinking about what I would read ahead of time and not just in random. I not only read to read but read to write, building my writers toolbox IS a part of my job. But I also like to read for the Better Me, business (with years of working in the business and corporate world I love it as well as like to keep abreast of it, however it comes in handy when running my writing as a business rather than a pleasure) I even enjoy the world economics of it. Much of business and finance is the shaping of the world, as well as my life, my writing and my published works.

I read on a line of projects I have in the works or leading up to (as I work on one project there is always another happening) so 2016 reading had a lot involved in relationships of people (couples, friends, parental, so forth) as does Greek Mythology and Angels and Religion.

Once in awhile I simply want a novel that calms, soothes, relaxes, takes me away…much how a simple movie or tv show might do.
The feminist in me as well as the memoir lover brings me a few titles to my list in which also cover a lot in art and music. Even comedy.

And then there is forever the scholar in me, the always asking WHY three year old inside of me, sometimes fulfilling me with knowledge that unexpectedly shapes my life and my view of it. Always searching. Always learning. Seeking knowledge.

There is the traveler of other lands in imagination as well as in physical form. And other lands, other times, and others magic (I loved the Mists of Avalon years ago.)

There was a time way before even aged twenty-five when a dozen books of divorce got me through the emotional wreckage of my own first and young divorce, even if they didn’t help exactly, the seeking for it had.

The Burbank book club that I once organized and brought together many different people, mostly within the film and music business, many in documentary. The insight from others was eye opening.

I remember the summers of around age ten when my best friend/cousin and I would ride our bikes to the library, check out books on a subject and then go match it up, learn with them when walking through the big forestic park with a wide creek running through it. Birds, fish, tree’s and more. We learned how much more there was than the eye could see. Soaking up the knowledge from the books and making them real by seeking out and matching in real existence to the pages of the book. The saving of the ducks nest of eggs didn’t go over real well though.

There was my mothers handing me of Maya Angelou’s book I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings, opening a whole world to me…the one of becoming a writer. Learning to draw on experience and life. And that not all experiences were wasted.

I now draw from a lot of the lists from websites mentioned above as well as magazines and sites like The Muse , Inc. Magazine  , Entreprenuer Magazine ,Forbes ,LinkedIn  and even from blogs, Twitter, and Instagram. Often I stumble upon something quite…jusr right.

With a year of Presidential elections, the always loved to read about it historian in me, has gone back to read books of and by past Presidents, world history, of wars, and economy and politics, slavery and laws, human rights in AID’s, gay, race, and women, women’s suffrage and more. And I seek at least one counter view of each.

I love reading about health and the human brain in medical and psychology terms. This type of reading has always been one of my ‘weird hobbies, always one to land on the list. Basically if it interests you…find a book about it to add to your list. If it’s something you would like to do, read about it, or about people who do it. If it’s something that affects you, read it, if it’s in the work that you do, read (for a writer this is about actual writing, editing, publishing, publishers, the world market of writing/books/writers/publishers, the how-to, other authors and everybodies say-so, the genre you write in. The books and authors you like and those you don’t to learn from and why you don’t like them. Topics written about in your writing, but also business, business economics, business management, marketing and sales. Even design. I read the 1st of Fifty Shades for a sort of essay on why it was so popular (I also had my years of teenaged experience of sneaking into my mothers old trashy paperback romances to compare to.)
When you read about a company who made a big marketing mistake…don’t scroll past that…stop and read and learn from the bad and the mistakes and the why it didn’t work and even sometimes what people are saying about it.
All things can be taken with a grain of salt, advice most so, but one has to read it all to know what is good and what is worthless. To read open minded is best to understand what to soak in and what to pass over.

I choose my writing more these days by the writers as artists now, since starting a career and path as a writer. And because I am big on supporting local arts and businesses, I make an effort to read local writers, which has been a very pleasant surprise . Somehow the Art of Writing still falls wayside the circle of Art, as a seperate when speaking Of The Arts. I try to be sure it is incuded. And the stumble across authors by Facebook .

I always seek out a walk through libraries on travels and Independnt Bookstores . I stroll through and find certain books on my list, buy one ‘by its cover’ and a few random at all times.

And the NYT BEST Sellers List still has effect.

What are ways that you choose what you read?

Sunday Book Talk: A Words Worth.

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In the Writers world we submerge ourselves in reading to write. We read novels, fiction, non-fiction, poetry, essays…whatever it may be. Some only read some of the above and others, all. We read about how to write, often in trying to screw up the courage and motivation to sit down to actually write. Often partial ways within our writing we find ourselves at stopping points. We’ve become distracted, bored, our minds have wandered to the next story. We are blocked and spending more time staring at a wall then writing. The editing process….what to cut out, what to leave in. The dirty details of it all. The how to get published afterwards? The where to begin, what steps do you take? As easy at it seems, someone would have by now come through with a universal step by step, we all writers still ask this questions…again and again. And truly, for each writer and as times change, there isn’t exactly just one way to go about it. What worked for one, doesn’t seem to work for another in the exact same way.

I myself have been reading through every single thing that comes my way, though there are moments of passing on something occasionally, or closing the book finding a dead end, no capture. Or reading a few lines a day only just to get through for whatever tiny tidbit of wisdom I may find in it. To find what works for me, I must read it all to know what there is to be worked with. In the meantime I just write and I kind of figure all the rest out as I go, not cramping the creative part of things. But I am a believer in being a Living Student. Constantly learning, shaping, and having a toolbox handy for the work I do.

One of the items I am about to get through is a book I found in a neat Independent  Bookstore in Houston this past Spring.  The book is Words’ Worth , A handbook on writing & selling nonfiction.
Written by Terri Brooks and published by St. Martin’s Press, New York.

I’ve not even opened it yet so no telling you my thoughts or amazing secrets or AH HA moments yet found. If you’ve read the book, or any other by the author, please comment here about it.

Sunday Book Talk: Nancy Drew.

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The What What on Nancy Drew.

I have had a very nostalgic summer, it may be that soon after it ends I will turn thirty-five. Whatever the case I have been yearning to re-read some childhood favorites again like The Black Stallion Series and Nancy Drew. Sort of like when I crave Macaroni & Cheese on a Tuesday. Comfort connectons to childhood.

Nancy Drew is one I have seen largely put together collections in antique stores here and there over the years but of course I’ve never had the right time nor the right money just then. But I am hoping to one day begin a collection, or recollection of them. I’d be proud to one day have much shelf space dedicated to those yellow hardcopy spines in my sophisticated adult library.
I remember much of my exploring by mind as I read through copy after copy as a little girl and often much of my outdoor exploring influenced by these pages. Even now when I explore some abandoned location or dark secret cave in my travels or as I spent time among the historic buildings of Galveston Island my mind would tickle with the feeling I would have then when reading these books, as if some mystery were soon to be solved.

If I were one to have them, the series is one I would be sure to supply my own children with. In the sooner than later future I plan to do so for my nieces and nephews. I might just die a little inside if they didn’t love the books I did as a child.

The Nancy Drew series is a unique book series in a lot of ways. It’s creation and long running stance one that can be appreciated in the world of books. In a time when even comic books were new but eventually time would show, written by several authors over a long period of time and creating a cult following. Nancy Drew was one to show that it could hold it’s stance through time. Manly with the little girls, it also showed many young girls that there was another window, if not many, open to them in the exploration of life and what a woman can be when she grows up, not constricting to societies standards. And as society changed over the years, Nancy Drew upheld that she could hold her own from past to current times, a time of publication that spans my entire own life into adulthood even, my mothers entire life and even partially my grandmothers.

The book has changed publishers over the years as well as writers and editors and even revised versions in sections. It has published one in a year to several. It has changed it’s cover art in newer times to appeal more to todays young audience, but true to the old art my heart still holds. There is something special when holding an old hard bound copy of a Drew book, it is more intimate than holding my own baby photo album.

I have not read the series for many years so I can not compare how well the writing currently has held up. And when reading as a child I wasn’t reading with a writers mind but a childs, allowing for being swept off to other worlds, details of aduthood need not apply. But to read the series from start to finish now would be truly a year I would carve out in my life just for. However perhaps over the next half of my life I may carve out a summer afternoon here and there. I am sure I would sit in the shade of a tree and devour each book cover to cover if I should.

Though the hard copies have become paperbacks I still am fond of those yellow spines but not against the change of the books at an easier cost for children. I am however, peeved at the artistry becoming so poor, ugly, unspecial, and childish especially when as a young pre-teen to early teen I loved the Nancy Drew sophistication, the image of a woman I would soon become. At a time when my mind wasn’t in books or with my horses it was all about growing up and being in aww of it, but not in a grow up too fast way, I was in no hurry, I was only fascinated at what was to come, mainly getting taller. As a lover of vintage book covers, I would love to see any future ND books come out in a entirely new light. One that hasn’t forgotten that book covers, too, are part of the art. And a part of the memory. I am sure there is a happy medium to be found. However if I were to judge a book by it’s cover, I would pass on such a childish book, considering that the story inside must also then be dumbed down. There is no argument here on a grown woman reading a “childs book” because reading a classic vintage cover is to read a classic vintage book holding a classic vintage story.

I heard recently that a new TV series was shut down by the station as it would not be popular enough. I for one would have very much watched such a series. An update from the 1970’s.
As long as not on the Disney Channel or made into a childs show or anything Hannah Montana-esq. But as an adult show or even starting teenaged, a vine could grow such a tv show into a younger version of the same thing. A goal of many marketed items is to sell the same thing three times. Book, young pre-teen show, older late teen to any aged grown adults show. Though I feel it might end up much more of a women’s watched tv show, many men watch what the women choose and since this has included desperate housewives, Once upon a Time, and Buffy The Vampire Slayer to name a variety, I am sure the audience might happen to be just wide enough to calm tv stations fears. I just say that it needs to be treated right. Even if childhood books, the books were never childish. I would think that since the writing is there, it would be casting, bad acting and poor production that would bring it down if anything were to. Really the show, Call The Midwife, would make a good example of what a good Nancy Drew series could be in old fashioned, young women, quick story lines, and good production on not the largest of all tv shows. Bad direction would be the Disney Channel, Hannah Montana or anything of a non-carton Scooby Doo movie has been.

To learn where to start on building a collection, I highly recommend this site as your first stopping point, and going from there.
I would also recommend that once you know each copies worth, not to make online shopping your only point. After all, Nancy Drew is about the hunt for solving the mystery, garage sales and especially antique shops/malls are really great sources. (There is one antique store in Gaveston that has an entire shelf unit of them) ..IF you have your worth knowledge in hand so as not to be gouged by over paying. With information easy to pull up in hand these days, however, perhaps you have a chance at making a deal with the seller.
Making the search half the fun is exactly how I enjoy finding my books and what I plan to do. If you are searching for a special bookworm in your life, maybe take them on the hunt as part of a gift of book being the prize.

Well, look at the time. I get started on books and could go on but for now feel free to comment anything Nancy Drew related for some Nancy Drew conversation.

A Lady Talks Books: Playing The Bones.

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Type of Book: Novel
Author: Louise Redd

Playing The Bones.

Plume
1997

Why I picked up this book: In my quest for books about music, including fiction, all a part of my reading for pulling an old screenwrite project off the back burner, and it fell into my find of random books (I can’t remember where I got this one), this one somehow fell into my hands, second hand (Might have been Galveston Bookshop)) and signed by the author to it’s original owner, a sign that people really do purge their books. Now granted there are many books out there signed to me….over three thousand burned in a storage unit, another at least thousand went lord knows where from my ex-h, more turned to mush in a broken pipe flooding, and more lost still, though far less than any other time, when I went to “Tahiti,” but I have never actually been able to book purge. I suppose that I do have some floating out there that I lent and never got back (eh hem people.)

Personally I am a spine breaker, dog earer, note maker, marks all through out, and let’s not even talk about the highlighting. So I am usually more embarrassed than not in handing over my books. But each shows my love…each drop of soup or coffee or smear of turmeric or chocolate that the pages contain.

What was I talking about? Oh yes…the novel, Playing the Bones, by Louise Redd. A book about a woman who cheats on her fiancee with a jazz musician (and all the racial stuff that comes in a Texas town of white woman cheating on her white man with a black man stuff, too.) The book takes place in Houston…a delight I hadn’t known until until I began reading it. You could take a tour of H-Town through this book. Any other Houston or Texas placed books you can recommend?

Anyhow….

I’ll admit..the writing is very first novel (seriously I seem to attract these, or is it that honestly after an author survives the first they can’t bring themselves to write the second? We are’t all Stephen King, after all. Or is it that I like their first so much that I can’t bring myself for disappointment that can come in a second?) However, this author does have a second and I already placed my order.

Austin Chronicle  has a great review written up.
And the author is just that….opposite it seems of her character…and that…is hard to pull out of ones ass. We authors do write a character either as we see ourselves or as we wish we were to be, so sometimes being the opposite of our own self isn’t a far stretch for a writer…maybe…however. This brings me back to Stephen King…pondering…pondering.

In one way it’s one of those books written by a white woman who has no clue about the black man. In reading this I wonder if she’s ever even actually met one. Though on the other hand, I have met this exact same man, I swear to gawd. But then again it really hits one way/view/type very head on at the same time. Which is both good…and bad…and just up for grabs of haters, but brings different lines of conversation to the table. Love it or hate it.

She truly gets her own fiancee’s character so nail on the head that you really do know this guy. Sad as that may be.
Her characters relationship with her abusive mother just again fell into my daughter-mother relationship category as well and was…wow. Here, I suggest you read it for yourself.

Weirdly all very different entities:

The relationship in herself as a teacher/woman/therapy.

The relationship with her fiancee.

The relationship with her jazz singing lover.

And the relationship with her mother…

…are so incredibly vastly crisp and clearly different written without a single smudge yet brought together as in blue and yellow make green in this novel that I applaud the author on her abilities that so many authors get lost in.

Texas Monthly   has a fantastic little insight in a write up of the author on what being a writer is really like.

Getting lost in the city through her book really felt like home. Her story of the Rothkel Chapel is hilarious….especially when you know the Rothko Chapel.

Overall it’s a great book about…womanhood. The real life of it and the fucked up we can be, the sabotage of our own lives we often do, and the trying to find the path we belong on and the woman we are. I admit that at first I was all eye rolling on this book. A bit stereotypical, a bit fantasy not in a good way. More than a bit bold. But I ended up hooked to the end and fell fully in love last paragraph.

A Lady Talks Books. How To Be An American Housewife.

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Type of Book: Novel
Author: Margaret Dilloway

How to be an American Housewife.

Berkley Publishing Group.
2010

Why I picked up this book: I had come across some bits and pieces of this book and the way the story was told which intrigued me. I also enjoy stores written about that era and have an interest of fiction novels that include some actual history and the way things were.

I ended up being delighted about the novel. It was a fantastic read and well written. I enjoyed the way the author didn’t get real politically correct nor put in too much history filler, however brought the story to a fullness that left no details undone.

The book also ended up falling into my category of mother-daughter relationships, not only between two generations but also of the next. An added bonus for me.

The opening of each chapter includes old inserts of a book the lead character “learned” how to be a housewife from that was entertaining, funny…and in a way also sad. Fiction as it may be, this life existed.
The talk of lack of friends, fitting in, and embarrassed children, the shunning of other housewives, would make me cry.

Laughter and crying, empathy….a novel should bring these. This novel brought these.

My favorite line in the book was “I was disobedient, not foolish.”
My favorite chapter opening of the book that the lead character “learned” from was:
“An important criterion in choosing your American mate is his blood type. Military men often wear identifying necklaces, “Dog tags,” which bear the blood type. Learn the English letters and recognize them.
AB-The worst kind. They do whatever they want whenever they want. They make horrible husbands.
A- They are reliable and calm.
O- They are social but sometimes need more pushing to finish what they start.
B- Very practical, but dull.
O goes best with other O’s ad AB’s.
A can marry A or AB.
B can marry B or AB.
AB can marry anyone who will let them.”

This page by the author really had me laughing…funny and not funny at the same time. But has also made for good conversation pieces in crowds.

I of course, proceeded to find out what J’s blood type was (I could not remember, just like I forgot our anniversary today.)
The title of this book did cause him to ask me if I had marriage on my mind or was trying to tell him something. To which I replied something about lining books up for him to learn from.

Knowing some non-fiction element to this fiction novel in what it is based off of makes it interesting. A peek inside someone else’s home.
It is also not a “good” history of Japanese-American marriages, but a side and view to a real one….sometimes that’s what any marriage is and the suburban marriages of that day and age is shown very well around the dining table of this family, in this home, in this book.

I admire the author for for her abity in bringing forth a “real” suburban family in this book, from start to finish. The parents being not exciting but living life, putting bread on the table…not all romance and drama. The children grown up, a spot of view of children born many years apart. The son having mental issues of some kind…being a little different. Being fifty and still living at home and holding down a minimum wage job, unmarried. The daughter divorced and single mother stuck in a safe and solid dead end job. Just real. Not fancy.

I wonder what the opinions of older women, once young American housewives themselves during that time and age, think when reading this now.

The author has a bog on her website http://www.margaretdilloway.com called American Housewife. And this is a debut novel (I seem to be falling into that a lot these days) which is writing so happily well done I never would have known it. Please add this to your beach bag this summer.

A Lady Talks Books. First Comes Love.

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Type of Book: Memoir
Author: Marion Winik

First Comes Love.

Vintage Books
1996

Why I picked up this book: I had come across a mention somewhere of this author and it tempted me to read of her further, online I dug a little bit deeper and found a book she had published, a memoir, and the story itself sounded, well, quirky. I had walked right over from my loft then to the Galveston Bookstore and right there on the front shelf was the book. Upon purchase the owner told me the writer was due in town to speak and for a workshop at B’Nai Isreal and The Rosenberg Library just that very week. I went of course. I believe I have a new role model in not only writing, but in life and womanhood.

My impression when reading about this author was, quirky, when reading about the book itself, her memoir of marriage to her knowingly gay husband who dies of AID’s, during the start of the knowledge of AID’s in America, their relationship with drugs, and having children, my first thoughts were…who the fuck does this stuff?

While reading this book I ended up heading to Florida, where J’s aunt asked me what was reading…first time meeting family and this is the book I explained to her. *Eyebrow raised and walked outside* was the reaction.

Those thoughts kept up through reading the book, but also the pure rawness of the writing…her life on the page, was so connecting I felt as if I had myself lived it. And I don’t live a life anywhere near like hers. But she writes as if to hand you her shoes and help your feet slip right in.

Being a woman who lives and grows through life and being in a marriage with someone who does not also just…hit hard. The fact that he was facing death for years but life had to go on around him was what resonated with me.

She raised her kids. She changed as a woman. She grew as an author and put her life and experience into her writing. And she loved no matter what. To the end. Her husband and family as well as herself. She openly talks about helping her husband die. My impression often was ” She’s has balls.”

The completely unconventional marriage shows that love…and friendship, know no bounds. That there isn’t a box in which we live drawn out for us. No lines not to cross. It isn’t you over there, me over here. It is what a heart wants and what two people choose. There is no right or wrong way.

As a memoir outside most peoples boxes I suggest the read. As a writer I suggest the read. As a woman I suggest the read. When life just doesn’t seem like it’s going according to plan or your image of what it should be, I suggest the read. I look forward to reading many more of her books.

Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet

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Type of Book: Novel
Author: Jamie Ford

Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet.

Ballantine Publishing
2009

Why I picked up this book: I follow Jamie Ford online and have really fallen not only for a lot of his writing but the way he promotes and also even his political and world views he shares.

I have followed and read the short story presence of this author for some time before I finally got the book. I have no read Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet and am eager to read his next one, Songs Willow Frost. My asking for the book in a Barnes & Noble when I coudn’t find it (only copy) prompted the clerk to order one for himself right then and there, and we ended up in great discussion of interracial relationships, and we spoke of WWII, views of this writer and others, and of being aspiring writers ourselves. However, it was nice to see someone prompted to read a book I was to read.

I loved it, a well done read and for an adult getting into the mind of a child (since we so forget) Ford did a really good job. This book even ended up touching on parental relationships, a big topic of reading for me this year, that I had not expected.

What I like as well is that transitional from online author presence that I’ve enjoyed reading to novel author was smooth and seamless…not a drastic situation of change.

The book really did take you in the the characters, time and place and it is a sink down with some coffee and get comfortable kind of read.

Ford is speaking in schools I heard, and this book really is one that should become required classroom reading. It helps open eye’s to a part of America that no one ever talks about. But is written in such an easy way to really let kids relate.

The transition from past to present in a book is not always easy to follow but Ford does a great job in that, in the clean writing, in the teaching of the book without trying to…and without any shoving down the throat of politics or getting technical and sounding like an encyclopedia, and in pulling in the reader. This is a must add to your reading list.

I was hooked to travel to places in this book, the Panama Hotel, Seattle, I wanted to spend rainy days walking through China Town while reading this book.

Hotel is a book I would have bought for it’s cover. I love the color and the photo, the story told in the cover itself. Good job.

The fact that this is a debut novel really bows me away…it has the simplicity… the crisp clearness, the nonsense cut out and the story told usually missed by first time authors. I love reading first time books but am usually frustrated and learn more of what not to do with my writing than end up reading a book that inspires me…but this book inspires, teaches and sets example.

Good for the beach. Good for the adult. Good over tea on a rainy day, good for the teen, even good for the pre-teen, good for the elderly, good for the reader, good for the writer. Good in the schools. This book is an all around with good breadth.

Be sure to read his acknowledgement, in itself a cute enjoyment.

Morning Meditation VII.

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So many to read! My list this year is at 181 of reading geared toward my various writings or wants of influence, enjoyment or learning. All basically influencing. But more and more books keep getting added to my Books File! I have a books file in my book marks, a file folder on my desk top, there is goodreads, there are book tites and authors names written al throughout several notesbooks, even sticky notes all over my desk, and logged in lists on my phone. Not to mention when I am buying the random when out and about that aren’t on my current list. So then my book pile grows as well. And then there are the gift books that come along and are very cherished. So much goodness and so little time. I’ve already decided that next years reading list will be strictly #instagram from #writers on there. So if you are an #author of a #book, even your #firstbook #Firsttimeauthor or #selfpublished In part because I follow some really neat people and in part to promote #authors who work hard to promote their #writing. Post your Author-Insta here!

Book Review by The Lady. Tiger Mother.

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Type of Book: Memoir
Author: Amy Chua

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother

Penguin Group
2011

Why I picked up this book: Daughter-Mother relationship. Parenting.

This book had a lot of hype, and because I am not a mom, I never read it. However, this year I added it to my reading list in the mix of reading of parental relationships. Also due to culture idea as well as a mixed-culture family view.
I found it to be pretty well written and a good read.
Honest.

The moments reading about her screaming and often losing battle with a three year old and the differences of her two daughters was a big family “Yep, just like us” moment.
Reading something I may or may not disagree with is always something I am open to.

Though many of her idea’s of Chinese parenting and family are great…and also very American ideas of what Chinese parenting and culture is…the truth really came out in the fact that her own father was not that typical do as your parents say Chinese as only one example close in this book. That seemed to sort of go over the authors head. As much as she tried being non-American, she often ended up being just-like-American.

The idea of disciplined children of such strictness is great. And it has happened. But it is not just a change of Chinese to American culture as much as it is a change in generational culture.

However, I cannot speak for the Chinese.

I personally would be a strict parent (so I believe) I would not, however, be wasteful or forceful. Though a violin may get my child scholarship, in the end so would that energy into school and study itself. I would love my children to play an instrument, but I couldn’t see forcing it on them. Some strictness as all things can be a little lazily handled, even what we love and are good at. But sometimes a love has to be there to begin with. Do I wish my grandmother was more strict at my learning the piano growing up? Sure. I say that. But in all reality I likely would have put a thousand hours into something that now I would not even remember.

I guess I remember my mom screaming at me more than telling stories or singing sweet songs and doing things with us and in reading this I felt that will leave a bigger impression on the authors daughter as well. I also truly wonder at this marriage!
But I don’t think the mother did wrong either. She did what a lot of mothers would do. Have done. Or have tried to do. And she is there and more involved than a lot. She wasn’t perfect, and no mother is. The story is a true testament to motherhood of an example showing what a mother tries to do by trying to do it all right and pretty much as is typical, nothing goes according to plan. Such is motherhood. You can plan and drive and shape you children all you what but in the end they are their own people.

I most loved the essay her daughter wrote for school inserted in the book.

I do come away feeling that the book, though geared toward being a mother, lost itself completely on being a wife and a woman. But also, such is life as a mother I hear. I just wonder in that effect of role model for the two young girls. And likely we will see one girl be a strict mom one day herself and one be the total opposite. This is a great effect of same house-hold, different outcome.

For relationship reads, this is a good one to and to add the list. It is really well write and clear to read, mixed with the view of many other books, articles, essays and lessons from real life, it is a good twist on an ancient act of parenthood….that has yet to be perfected.

And an act that will always have mothers in an uproar…a way that they may not agree with, different than theirs and possible showing them a better way…or examples of their own wrong ways. Often parenting is learning what NOT to do by lessons of life rather than knowing the perfect recipe. It’s a million years and nobodys gotten it right yet. Mother’s are human. Even Tiger Mother’s. She shows great humility even on the front cover where it tells underneath the title that the book was supposed to be one way but instead “It’s about a bitter clash of cultures, a fleeting taste of glory, and how I was humbled by a thirteen-year-old.”

It is a well written, clear read, and inside is an essay by her daughter that is very beautiful. Most I would enjoy reading from this author again would be more insight to the marriage and I truly hope that one day there is a memoir written by one of her daughters to read and compare the mother-Daughter views.
A good read even for the non-mother. And even more so for a once daughter.

A little follow up article from Today